Don’t we?
When I look back at all the Valentine’s Days my husband and I have shared over the years (19 to be exact!), I can clearly see that things have changed! They use to be a day full of romance, love and candle light dinners. Now even though we still do the romance (well we try to be - we have three young kids), love (definitely) and the candle light dinner (well they are more a quick bite to eat out or a takeaway), somehow it all seems rushed and a bit pressurised.
I am not anti Valentine’s Day, in fact I like the idea that there is a day to celebrate love but lets be honest, its a bit harder to embrace it with kids. There is this expectation and pressure that you have to do something majorly romantic on Valentine’s Day and this idea that everything has to be fantastic and great.
This notion works well when you have the time and energy, not so much when you have three young kids, it’s a week night and you are both wrecked!! It’s a recipe for failure and it becomes one big let down. As a couple you then question - what’s wrong with us? Can we not be romantic on one day of the year at least??
So to make this day more of a success I have now taken on a new approach to Valentine’s Day. From now on I am going to look on Valentine’s Day as a day to remember that we do love each other (despite the arguments) and a day to reconnect as a couple and put aside at least for an hour or two, being a mammy and daddy!
Maybe there will still be romance, love and candle light dinners but it will happen naturally and not because it’s Valentine’s Day and we have got to be romantic!!
And so today, Valentine’s Day my Husband and I had a lovely lunch out - without the kids! We chatted and relaxed and actually caught up on what was going on in each others lives!! There was no great romance or fancy dinner but there was definitely love… just as there should be!
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